IF we realize for a moment what is happening around, it will feel a tremendous power flow from the existing personalities. There is a bricklayer who was willing to work to night work on excavation of pipes, there are many public transport drivers compete to pursue payment, there are plenty of official corruption here and there from the start of millions to trillions of dollars, there is a conflict here and there merebutkan leadership chair a state agency, there are people the pursuit of reward millions of dollars in such a way so that others are not given the opportunity, and many more events that we experience every day.
In an interview with a psychiatrist member of the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology, Howard Cutler, MD, political and spiritual leader of Tibetans, the fourteenth Dalai Lama said that the phenomenon or phenomena of human life is a movement toward happiness.
This motion, according to the owner's real name Tenzin Gyatso, has been read and formulated long ago by the philosophers from Aristotle to James Willliam. They argue that the existence or the ultimate goal of human existence in this world is to seek happiness. Unfortunately, the biggest trend of the era to era humans are selfish and want to win themselves in achieving happiness. In fact, according to the Dalai Lama, on the contrary, people are selfish, distanced himself from the association, always anxious, jealous and hate others are people who are not happy.
"People who are happy generally more sociable, flexible, creative, loving, forgiving, generous, always willing to give the hand of others and not arrogant," said the Dalai Lama.
Tend Greed Many people think that having a high position, the seat of leadership in a higher institution, higher education, a lot of money and all other kinds of satisfaction are the factors that can be happy.
Dalai Lama says, wealth, satisfaction of certain positions or glory, health, friendship, satisfaction for knowledge, enlightenment on a particular spiritual outlook may cause us to be happy.
However, according to Sr. Seraphine OSF, it is not a form of true happiness. "True happiness lies within ourselves," said Chief Wisma Samadi Emmaus, Jakarta. Our desire to pursue all things such as money, certain goods, office, pesahabatan, sexy appearance, and others will not always run out.
When one desire is fulfilled, another desire will arise. And so on. Even if all wishes were fulfilled, according to Seraphine it will only lead to a false happiness. "Because only temporary. After all hugged, held, then what? This heart is empty feeling, "he said share experiences. That human beings always have the desire, for the theologian graduate of University of Poona India, Alexander Dirjosusanto it deems reasonable. Unfortunately, the general tendency of us are not always satisfied with what we have achieved. Humans tend to be greedy.
"People often feel uneasy at what should not need digelisahkan," he explained. Maybe someone already quite simply by using a cell phone for 300 thousand. But, because of prestige or just want, then buy that cost three million dollars. Avarice is so human, so there is a sharp satire that says' Even if the whole world belonged to him, people will ask for more again. Even the whole universe '.
Thankful More Awet "The only drug to stay away from covetousness is the attitude to always be grateful," said the Dalai Lama to Howard. This step is very effective because it is basically material things can not be the size of one's happiness. There is no guarantee that wealth alone can give you happiness or satisfaction that you seek. "Moreover, our sense of satisfaction is strongly influenced by the tendency to make comparisons," said Tenzin. Each time, we tend to look and feel of others more fortunate than ourselves. In fact we were really lucky.
When I saw neighbors get a reward of millions of dollars, we then attempt to get the same prize. When others had a cell phone, we tried to get it. Indeed, satisfaction will be felt. But only briefly. If not received, disappointment and frustration that come by. We think God is unfair and so forth. "So, if we want to compare yourself with others, compare with those less fortunate and contemplate all that we have," explained Alex. The Dalai Lama told Howard the story about a number of studies. In a study at the University of Wisconsin, Milwaukee, USA, a woman asked to see pictures of the terrible conditions of life in Milwaukee around the 20th century.
They were also asked to imagine and write a personal tragedy-a tragedy like fire, a lifelong disability. After completing training, these women were asked to rate their own quality of life. This exercise produced an increase in satisfaction over their own lives. An other experiment at the State University of New York, Buffalo, subjects were asked to complete the sentence "I am grateful because I'm not ..." After five times to repeat this exercise, the subjects experienced a significant increase in stating their satisfaction towards life. Other subject groups were asked to complete the sentence "If I become ..." This time this experiment led to the subjects felt less satisfied with their lives.
These studies according to the Dalai Lama taken to show that the level of satisfaction a person against his life can be improved simply by changing the perspective or point of view. "In this case, our mental attitude to be the major determinant of whether we want to be happy or not," said the monk. Neither Alex nor the monks said that happiness is determined by one's own mind rather than by external events and material things.
I can be happy because I have a perception within the state are now happy to me. Not happy when I've got this or that, if no I'm not happy. According to Alex, all the things that we have whether it be wealth, health, friendship, position will not give a happy effect of prolonged without the right mental attitude. "Most only give momentary pleasure," said Father Promasan origin, Yogyakarta.
For example, if you keep a deep hatred or anger, the mind will damage your health. Thereby destroying one of the prerequisites of happiness. Similarly, if you are unhappy and annoyed just default only, the health body does not make much sense.
Conversely, if you can maintain a peaceful mind, peaceful, serene, you can be a very happy even though your health worse. Alex confirmed, the higher the level of peace of mind, the greater the peace that we feel, the greater our ability to enjoy a happy and enjoyable life.
The Dalai Lama added, "As long as you have never undergo mental discipline that can bring peace of mind, no matter the abundance of material or conditions you have, all it will never give you a sense of joy and happiness that you desire. Conversely, if you have a mind that is satisfied, the mind is serene and stability to some extent, even if you have a variety of other supplies which are usually a prerequisite of happiness, you still might go through life happy and fun, ".
Why hard work? Dalai Lama says that whether we are happy or not depending upon our perception of life in which we live. If we want to be grateful and happy for what we do and we obtain, by itself it will be the happy our attitude. In other words, true happiness can be achieved through mental training. that efforts to achieve the things that we want it as something that is not good. "That we worked so I could buy a house, clothes and other necessities it is normal. What's not normal is when we are obsessed and so ambitious as to live only to satisfy all desire, "said the Nobel peace prize winner in 1989.
Alex mentions, that the term sakmadyo Java (to taste) is the right word for it. If we have not been helped by having a car deer, why else should buy a Mercedes. This taste will finally bring us to the unpretentious attitude. We strive because it is necessary to strive for. To what extent necessary, it must be traced from our motivation.
I want to buy a Honda or a Mercedes car. Honda was functionally adequate, but it was my pride to say I need Merci. Well, which is more important to you, functions or your prestige? In addition to not comply with ngoyo (Java = ambitious) for whatever we want, the Dalai Lama said that the technique to be happy is to appreciate what we have now.
Alex added that this attitude can be seen in the Javanese custom. In an accident some say "Thank God, my ears are sore ..." or "Thank God my feet just a stump, try if ... ..." Such optimism is an attitude that we can appreciate the circumstances that we have received. The award eventually led to an attitude of gratitude, thank you, that we are still lucky.
Need to Inner Freedom According to Sr. Seraphine, to get happiness, we need to set time (time management). Than 24 hours a day of our lives, we spend seberapakah time for yourself, family, profession and social activities? We need to arrange for them to get parts in proportion. Attention to proper and balanced proportions indicates that we ourselves are aware, life is not only to pursue one thing, money for example.
If all share, we will be happy. From the sidelines of the time, it would be nice if we always connect with God by prayer in the heart. "Maybe at when typing, we say a line of prayer the Lord, have mercy on us or the other and that we can do for 24 hours of our time" says this Catholic nun.
Attitudes like this will help us realize how all the efforts that we do all day is not only our own efforts, but thanks to God for help as well. Those Muslims could do it with models of remembrance in the hearts of God called one of asthma. la ilaha illa Allah (there is no god but Allah) or Allah Hu (He is).
That way, every time we experience the events whether it's pleasant or not, will always show gratitude.
"Our mind will feel free because it is not attached to certain things," explained the woman was aged 75 years. Attachment to worldly goods such as money, position, praise, and so often makes us no rest. Life is tiring because of all diforsir effort to achieve all that. Signs attached to things too much it is if not achieved, we will be disappointed, sad, frustrated prolonged.
"We need to have the freedom or independence of mind so that when our own worldly goods such as money, friendships, our health is lost, we can accept it willingly," said Seraphine How to Let Bahagi * Realize that true happiness can not be based on worldly goods, but from within ourselves. * Say always a sense of gratitude and thanks to God for everything we accomplish or do we have even the slightest. * Appreciate all that we have to nurture, care, and love him. * Compare yourself to those less fortunate, rather than on their more fortunate than us. * Do all things in proportion. When you have finished working at six, do it. When you have to stop eating when full, stop. * Manage your time in a balanced way; try time for yourself, family, work, and other activities all share.
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